January 05th, 2023

January 6, 2023

Resolve Resolutions
With
Bulletproof Vulnerability

​By: Tye Johnson

 “It’s been a long December, and there’s reason to believe maybe this year will be better than the last.”
 Counting Crows – “Long December”
 
As we head into 2023, there is a common phenomenon that we share as a collective society. That is the desire to reshape, recreate, or reform ourselves into something more than what we were the year before.
 
Celebrating and mapping the New Year for growth can be a time to gracefully dig our heels into reflections, resolutions, and reinventions. It can also be a time to open the inner wounds of rejection, resistance, & remorse.
 
If we are not careful, it can be a slippery slope into repeating the same habits and behaviors.
 
There’s a vapor-thin fine line between facing our challenges and rejecting ourselves. Some challenges may easier to accept than others, but at times the thought of our current position gets in the way of what we desire to become.
 
After a while, the voices of our past actions, memories, and behaviors begin to saturate the true growth desired from setting intentions with what we desire for ourselves, and we end up reverting back to what was comfortable… the reason that we created the resolutions/intentions in the first damn place!
 
[Focus on the physical heart center and take a deep breath]
 
There may be a solution to prevent remorse for not being our most authentic expression of who we know we could be if we just gave it a chance…
 
Practice accepting the worst parts of ourselves.
 
In the later years of his research, psychoanalytical pioneer, Carl Jung expressed the importance of working with our “Shadow” to achieve true liberation & growth through inner vulnerability. This would prove not to only relieve mental/emotion woes, but also offer a holistic solution for expansion.
 
Essentially, this would mean that nothing could stand in the way of those initial cliché goals we all tend to set. The thing about clichés is they are typically oversimplified truths that in this instance we are all aspiring to but often fall short. You cannot change what you don’t accept. If we are afraid to own the parts of us that create the guilt we feel, then we are telling those parts that they are greater that we are. We give them our power, becoming a victim of our own shadow.
 
“I want to be healthier.”
                                                                                          “You can’t stick with healthy habits.”
 
“I want to be happier.”
                                                                                           “What is there to be happy about?”
 
“I want to be healed.”
                                                                                                        “It hurts too much to let go.”
 
 
If “Self-Acceptance is the key to liberation, accepting the things that we reject most about ourselves (“The Shadow”) can be our most valuable assets in having bulletproof vulnerability reinforced in steel. This creates the ability to integrate those inferior qualities of ourselves with the best parts of who we have yet to become. It’s possible…
 
Why do you think we create New Year’s Resolutions?
 
                             “If you think that I could be forgiven… Wish you would”
                                       – Also, Counting Crows – “Long December”